As the Young Women president in our ward, I have the special opportunity to participate as a member in our ward council. This morning as we met to discuss the needs of our ward, our Bishop
briefly touched on a parable taught by Christ which can be found in John 10:
11 I am the good shepherd: the good shepherd giveth his life for the sheep.
12 But he that is an hireling, and not the shepherd, whose own the sheep are not, seeth the wolf coming, and leaveth the sheep, and fleeth: and the wolf catcheth them, and scattereth the sheep.
13 The hireling fleeth, because he is an hireling, and careth not for the sheep.
14 I am the good shepherd, and know my sheep, and am known of mine.
15 As the Father knoweth me, even so know I the Father: and I lay down my life for the sheep.
We know Christ as the Good Shepherd. He is the literal Savior, leaving the ninety and nine in search for the one. He is our Guide and Protector. The underlying principles of his role are what makes it so beautiful: "The good shepherd giveth his life for the sheep." Love, selflessness, and devotion is why he came to this earth to save.
Compare this to a hireling, mentioned in the scripture. A hireling is "a person who works only for pay, especially in a menial or boring job, with little or no concern for the value of the work." When trouble arises, the hireling checks out.
Steve and I have been married for nearly 3 years now, dating for 4 years before that. By no means does this make us experts on marriage, but we've definitely learned a thing or two as we've enjoyed life together. Marriage absolutely requires you to be a Shepherd, not a hireling. Too many times marriages today are composed of "hirelings," who, at the first sign of struggle, weakness or conflict, flee. Sometimes a marriage may be composed of one shepherd and one hireling, and I do understand that, sadly, there are some circumstances where divorce is reasonable. As partners, however, remember you work together to
own your marriage. It is yours, and if you both care for it deeply enough, it can be yours
forever. Your spouse is yours, and you are your spouse's. Being a shepherd in your marriage includes love, selflessness, forgiveness, faith (in each other and in the Lord,) loyalty, communication, honesty, respect, humor, and patience among many other things. Giving your life to strengthening your spouse and your eternal marriage will ultimately help you realize who you are and who you can become.
Steve and I are strained and stretched by various things in our lives, but by these things we have only grown closer together. I know I am his, and he knows he is mine. We live by the proverb: